A lot of managers stuck into one level of expansion of their business and they struggle going up, because they do this big mistake. The mistakes is that they behave and think like a victim. They start to believe they are stuck, but actually they are stucked in their own beliefs or as we said they have this victim mentality.
What exactly is a victim? This is a person who gave over his control, he doesn’t have and doesn’t want to have control of the situation any more. As a result of this they do not take responsibility. They always blame the market, the employees, the government. If you find yourself as a victim from time to time ask yourself the following questions: Who is responsible for your success in business or life?; Who is responsible for your happiness? The correct answer is YOU!
I give you one real example of a business owner who was a victim. We met him and he starts to complain: there is no employees; that the employees he has got do not take any responsibility; how small the market is; he can not do anything; life is unfair; nothing is possible. Making other things and people responsible for his business had affected badly also his physical and mental health. On every solution we proposed him for the business he answered with a problem. On every opportunity we showed he said “this is not possible”. Then we said “in this case since everything is impossible why don’t you just close your business”. This was not of course an option for him, so finally he saw that it is time to change something.
Other phrases you can often hear from the victim than those mentioned above are: I have to, I need to. I must to, I have never done that, I don’t know how, it doesn’t work, what if I fail, It is not my fault, Never, Always, Ok I’ll try.
The first and easiest way to start changing something in order to succeed is to start with you. If you see that everything is impossible, how can you expect your people to see the things differently, how can you expect people to take responsibility since you do not do it. A manager should be a model, everything starts first from him.
If you want to build successful business and beautiful results in your life, the first thing you have to start doing is cut off your complains, take off the blames you used as excuses and justifications and after that start taking control. Write down what you think and say during the day and change this victims expression, you better start discipline your thoughts.
Everyone has problems and situations and some people try to control them, but the victim doesn’t try , because he prefer to be controlled from the situation, to be effect. How to start taking control – just see what can you do everyday, which little steps you can take in order to have a little bit more control, make list with those steps and do this every day. This will bring your responsibility level up and will help you build confidence and control. This will help you build the life you want.
SUCCESSFUL MANAGERS DO NOT ACT AS A VICTIM. How to have more control
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Perfect: The seminar on conflict prevention and resolution was:
- Not loaded with terminology;
- Delivered in an entertaining way;
- Logically structured;
- Interesting in the communication with the participants
Impressions that I want to share with you exceed my expectations. The way of presenting the lecture from both of lecturers made me feel like a part of their team.
Enthusiasm they gave us kept it interesting all the time. The things I’ve learned will be useful for me not only in my work as Chief of the Cabinet, but also in my life – especially personal life.
I wish to the team to be always at good level and I longing to see you on the next seminar.
N.T. Chief of Cabinet
I received a good preparation for my work with the living human being. The exposed theory plus the practical drills will help me for more success with people.
It was pleasure for me to take part in this seminar, on which I learned, systematized things, what I met in the past and intuitively recognized in my personal and professional relationships.
Thank you for your attention and for the interesting seminar you presented to us.
I wish you a lot of achievements and personal success!
Thanks to the training team! Perfect organization, professional approach, interesting point of view of the problems discussed. Provoking the interest of the workers in the sphere of business to this issue is praiseworthy. I wish you success in every new challenge! Always be so open and ready for all the managers who want to be one step ahead in the dynamic business environment.
For me this seminar was useful in dependence with the job I am doing now – Chief of the Cabinet of a Minister. In my everyday life I meet different people with different personalities and have to take different decisions. I am sure, now this will be easier for me.
I want to thank you for the knowledge you gave us.
The training gives us the opportunity to look from a side with enriched look otherwise common things from our everyday life. Some of those things we feel and realize internally and all this actually can be systematized. Gives us tools for managing of various situations.
F.T. Development Manager
From the seminar we received useful and interesting information concerning basic principles for conflict resolution, how to define and recognize the emotions from the Tone scale and the characteristics of the social and anti-social personality. It might be added some preventions for conflict appearance. Wonderful lecturer with perfect qualifications of an orator and body language.
V.I. Sales manager
I think that the fact two lecturers were so artistic very much help to direct the attention of the participants and to learn the matter.
The seminar is very useful to understand the basics of behavior of people who have bigger responsibility toward their subordinates and to help their work in making important decisions.
Thank you for the way of presentation of the lecture and my view about the management has changed in another direction, having in mind how we can look at the team and team work.
It was very useful for me to have practical and specific example in the management of an organization.
My personal benefit from the seminar is big and I hope I will implement it in the future.
For me the seminar was very interesting, in a great extend it “opened my eyes” about the reasons why people behave in a certain way. In the last part the emotions came a little bit too much for me. The concept is very interesting and I would like to read the book.
M.K. HR Director
From the seminar I learned a few techniques for finding out the emotions of my opponent. Directions for leading of conversation in a different environment (good or hostile). Specification of the characteristics of the anti-social personality was also useful. As a recommendation: to put little more stress on the conflict itself – techniques in its resolution in different situations – boss-subordinate; between colleagues and so on.
R.D. Sales Manager
Thank you for the wonderful seminar.
The lecturers were extremely communicative, they well complement one another.
I have learned a lot of new things that I hope will use successfully.
I hope to be able with the help of the seminar to handle the conflicts between my colleagues (and the anger in me).
For me today’s seminar was interesting because I explained to myself some behavioristic, emotional and other phenomena about the people around us. I liked also the systematization of the approaches which can be used to gain results in already created problematic situation as well as methods for avoiding such situations.
L.P. Head of Business Development and Sales
I also thank you for the wonderful training and personally to you for the extra time spent with us.
You have made me look differently in the people around me, whether they are our clients or my close people. I never really figured out how much you can be useful when you recognize the emotion of the person in front of you and make him go to a higher level. I tried it. This is unbelievable. Thank you!
Waiting for new meetings!
Interesting techniques concerning emotions and the tone scale.
P.G. Chief of operations
I want to express my good feelings towards both of the lecturers. They are two wonderful lecturers not only in theory, but also in the practice. All the information we received (despite it more difficult perception) is involved in our everyday life (in personal and professional aspect).
The good systematization will help us to see from a different angle the colleges beside us and to be able to understand them.
Thank you for the wonderful presentation and I hope we will have future meetings!
Fantastic speaker. Gives lots of energy and important data in a humoristic way. I never slept on his seminar and I stayed until the end, what I normally not do on seminars.
J.D. CEO, Building company
Thank you to Mr. Marc De Turck and Mr. Imre Toth for the presented subjects. For me this was a new theme and field of knowledge.
I wish success to the whole team and I am looking forward to see you!
The seminar was useful for me because I learned how I can “order” even better my way of life – professional and personal. Thank you!
M.S. Trade Director
I hope to be able to successfully apply in practice the presented principles which enriched what I knew so far. The examples given at the seminar will bring about successful realization. Thank you.
R.K. Chief of “Operations”
My name is Andrey Kamenov and I am the owner of Orbisoft, a company that manufactures software systems and sites. I like work and I do it with desire every day for 7 years. Despite the rising trend of my business, I have been struggling for a long time with organizational problems, with customer communication and the sales process. I had clear goals about where I wanted to be and what to achieve, but the path to their achievement was vague, confused, with the times of difficulty. In a few words: "A lot of work for small and unsatisfactory results." After attending the Free Boss seminar, I realized that I had lost a lot of time in search of complex systems for organizing business, time, team, products and energy. This whole chain I found in the courses of 'Ideas'. Working with Mark and his team has helped me to double my sales, organize my processes and deliver my products on time. Sincerely I recommend working with Mark and Ideas if anyone has any doubt can write to me email@example.com. I'd be glad to talk to him about it.
Thank you for the precious moments! The skill to communicate is something which we as human beings easily lose and fall into conflicts. To be able to handle them even when they seem bigger or higher than us is as important as knowing the ways in which we can fall in them. I am happy I’ve been with you and see you again!
D.P. Senior administrator HR
Fascinating and interesting performance by the lecturer. Categorically discharging and entertaining though it was not so deep. In each new contact one can learn something useful and practically applicable. I would define what I learned today as “each new thing is a well forgotten old one”.
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